I don't usually post this sort of
message, but felt this one was important and makes good sense. (I don't know who wrote
it.)
"In my job, I review criminal
and psychiatric files of imprisoned sex offenders who are approaching their release date.
I decide if they are likely to re-offend based on certain criteria and then civilly commit
them to a sex offender treatment facility if I decide that they are at significant risk to
re-offend.
I have read hundreds and hundreds
of files, and have taken note of some of the mistakes women make. Let me preface this by
saying that a woman is NEVER EVER EVER at fault for being raped or attacked, but here are
definite ways to reduce your risk of being a victim.
Here are the most common mistakes
women make that could result in them getting kidnapped, attacked, and/or raped:
1. Getting into the attacker's car
when he pulls a gun and orders you to get into his vehicle. Most attackers don't want to
shoot you ... they want you to get into the car so that they can drive you to a deserted
place and torture you. Don't comply. Run screaming. It is MUCH more likely than not that
he will just move on to an easier target.
2. Pulling over when a man drives
alongside of you pointing at your car pretending something is wrong. If this happens,
drive to the nearest well-lit and populated gas station and look the car over yourself (or
ask an attendant). Never pull over. Believe it or not, many women have fallen for this for
fear of their car spontaneously exploding in the middle of the road. Not likely.
3. Not locking your doors while
driving. I have read several cases where the attacker simply walks up to a woman's car
while she's at a traffic light and jumps in with his gun or knife drawn.
4. Opening your front door when
you have not positively identified who is there. If you don't have a peep hole, get one.
I've seen countless cases where the attacker gains access to his victims simply by
knocking on their door. Don't let an attacker get into your home. He then has a private,
relatively soundproof place to attack you.
5. Not being alert in parking
lots. If you go to the grocery store at night, don't be shy about asking for an escort to
your car. Too many women are abducted from parking lots or even raped in the parking lot.
Look in your back seat before entering your car. Cars provide endless hiding places for
attackers, both inside them and in between them. Be aware of your surroundings by looking
to the left and right and behind you with your head up all the time. You may appear
paranoid and look funny to others, but an attacker will think twice about approaching
someone who appears so aware of what's going on.
6. Trusting a clean cut, honest
looking stranger. I see mug shots of every sex offender in the state of Florida. They do
not look like monsters. They often look like they could be your friendly grocer, bank
teller, waiter, neighbor, clergy, doctor, etc. They are every age between 15 and 90, and
probably beyond. Only a small minority actually look scary. I just read a case yesterday
of a man with only one leg who beat up his victim with his crutch before he raped her. Who
would have ever thought that a one-legged man could be a rapist?
7. Trusting people to be alone
with your children. This is a difficult one, because child molesters end up being the LAST
person the parents would believe is the molester. Most of the child molesting cases I see
involve the stepfather, the uncle, the sister's boyfriend, the mother's boyfriend, the
grandfather, the baby-sitter, the neighbor, the family friend, the youth camp director,
day care worker, etc. Although rare, even women can be molesters. In every case, the
perpetrator is a nice guy, trusting, good with children, and the family is baffled or even
in disbelief that the person could be abusing their child. When it comes to your children
and grandchildren, be suspicious of everyone, no matter who they are. And pay attention to
what your child says and how he/she reacts to the mention of different people in their
lives.
I didn't mean to make anyone
uncomfortable with this, but I am at work right now reviewing files, and realized that
this email is a way I can reach many women at one time. I have the dirty job of reading
all these files, and it makes me feel good to know that I can share some inferences from
what I have learned. This is not an exhaustive list of what not to do, but just some
things that I have observed more than a few times."